This is where Lily Mindwell writes about inner child healing. Most of the articles are about the wounds that childhood leaves behind. They look at what those wounds do to an adult: the anxiety, the self-doubt, the patterns that keep coming back. Attachment styles and relationships have their own space too, because that is where the old wounds show up most. She studied psychology and worked in counseling, and she writes as someone who has done this work herself.
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Active Listening in Relationships: How to Stop Fixing and Start Hearing
Love Maps: Deepening Intimacy by Knowing Your Partner’s World
Repair Attempts: How Couples Stop an Argument Mid-Fall
Alphabet Dating: A Creative Way to Rediscover Each Other
Conscious Partnership: Aligning Goals for a Meaningful Life
Fair Fighting Rules: How to Argue Without Damaging Your Bond
How to Communicate Your Needs Effectively
Building Trust in Your Relationship: The Three Things It Is Made Of, and How to Rebuild Each One
Nonviolent Communication: Expressing Needs Without Blame
Life Design: Creating a Joint Vision Board for Your Future
Mastering Conflict Resolution
Reignite Your Relationship: Practical Exercises to Deepen Intimacy and Trust
Co-Regulation: How Two Nervous Systems Calm Each Other
Building a Future Together: Goal Setting Exercises for Couples
Holding Space: What It Means and How to Actually Do It
Relationship Roadmap: Plotting Your Journey Through Hard Times
The 2-2-2 Rule: A Simple Strategy to Keep Romance Alive
Emotional Bank Account: How to Build Trust Through Small Deposits
Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Relationships: Signs and How to Respond
Bids for Connection: Recognizing and Responding to Your Partner
Inner child healing, one question at a time
Each article takes one question and answers it in full. For example: why do I shut down when someone gets close? How do I set a boundary without the guilt that follows? What does an anxious attachment style look like on an ordinary Tuesday? The answer always comes with something to do, not only something to understand. A journaling prompt, a grounding exercise, a script for the next hard conversation. Nothing here replaces therapy; instead, it makes the work between sessions easier to carry.
The method is the one in her workbooks, from the Healing Your Childhood Wounds Workbook to the Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful Attachment Recovery Workbook and the Love and Relationship Workbook for Couples. The blog is where those exercises meet a real week: the text you almost sent, the argument that went in circles, the evening when the old shame came back. In short, inner child healing for people who want a way to practise it.
The older articles get a fresh look when there is a clearer way to say something. Use the search box to find one subject. Otherwise, start from a topic below. Each one gathers every article on that theme, so nothing gets lost in the archive.