This is where Lily Mindwell writes about inner child healing. Most of the articles are about the wounds that childhood leaves behind. They look at what those wounds do to an adult: the anxiety, the self-doubt, the patterns that keep coming back. Attachment styles and relationships have their own space too, because that is where the old wounds show up most. She studied psychology and worked in counseling, and she writes as someone who has done this work herself.
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Inner Child Healing · Family of Origin · Self-Worth · Managing Emotions · Attachment Patterns · Couples Communication · Intimacy and Connection · Trust and Betrayal · Mindful Living
Negative Sentiment Override: When Your Partner Can Do Nothing Right
Emotional Flooding: Why You Cannot Think Straight in the Middle of a Fight
Contempt in Relationships: The Eye Roll That Predicts the Ending
Relationship Anxiety: Why Love Makes You Worry Even When It Is Going Well
Repetition Compulsion: Why You Keep Choosing the Same Wound
Earned Secure Attachment: How Insecure Hearts Learn to Trust Again
Dismissive Avoidant Attachment: Why Needing No One Feels Like Strength
Deactivating Strategies: How Avoidant Hearts Talk Themselves Out of Love
Protest Behavior: The Things You Do to Make Them Come Back
Emotional Permanence: Why Love Feels Gone the Moment They Leave the Room
Emotional Invalidation: When Your Feelings Are Told They Are Wrong
Catastrophizing: Why Your Mind Jumps to the Worst and How to Stop It
Emotional Numbness: Why You Stopped Feeling and How to Come Back
Self-Abandonment: The Quiet Way You Leave Yourself Every Day
Functional Freeze: When You Look Fine and Feel Nothing
Fawn Response: Why You Keep Everyone Happy and Lose Yourself Doing It
Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Recognize Them and Stop Waiting for Them to Change
Glass Child Syndrome: Growing Up Next to a Sibling Who Needed More
Eldest Daughter Syndrome: The Invisible Job You Never Applied For
Family Scapegoat: How the Role Gets Assigned and How to Leave It
Inner child healing, one question at a time
Each article takes one question and answers it in full. For example: why do I shut down when someone gets close? How do I set a boundary without the guilt that follows? What does an anxious attachment style look like on an ordinary Tuesday? The answer always comes with something to do, not only something to understand. A journaling prompt, a grounding exercise, a script for the next hard conversation. Nothing here replaces therapy; instead, it makes the work between sessions easier to carry.
The method is the one in her workbooks, from the Healing Your Childhood Wounds Workbook to the Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful Attachment Recovery Workbook and the Love and Relationship Workbook for Couples. The blog is where those exercises meet a real week: the text you almost sent, the argument that went in circles, the evening when the old shame came back. In short, inner child healing for people who want a way to practise it.
The older articles get a fresh look when there is a clearer way to say something. Use the search box to find one subject. Otherwise, start from a topic below. Each one gathers every article on that theme, so nothing gets lost in the archive.